What are three things you have done that you wouldn't do sober?
In what ways did you violate your values system?
In what ways did addiction cause your personality to change?
What are two examples of times you tried to quit but resumed using?
What are two examples of times you hurt yourself and others?
What are three examples of powerlessness in your life?
How has your body been hurt by addiction?
What are some of the personality traits that block you from admitting powerlessness?
What are things that convince you that you are an addict and you are powerless?
What are three examples of unmanageability due to addiction in your life?
What are three incidents that led you to feel shame?
What are three examples of behavior you displayed when quitting without a program of recovery?
How has addiction interfered with your goals?
What feelings have you tried to alter?
What are some healthier ways to deal with feelings?
What are three things that will happen if you continue to act out on your addiction?
What changes do you hope for in recovery?
What are three personal promises you can make to yourself right now regarding your recovery?
Do you accept that you cannot control your addiction? Do you accept that you cannot control you behavior when you are not sober?
How do you recognize that addiction has led to habits, characteristics, and ways of reacting to daily happenings that are different from what you are when you are sober?
Do you accept that addiction is a disease? How does that change how you deal with life?
How have you tried to change others in your life? What were the consequences?
What means have you used to get what you want and need? What might work better to get your needs met?
How do you feel when people refuse to be and do what you want? How do you respond?
What would happen if you stopped trying to control others?
How can you let go of other's problems instead of trying to solve them?
Are you looking for a quick fix to your problems? Is there one?
In what situations do you feel excessive responsibility for other people?
In what situations do you feel shame or embarrassment for someone else's behavior?
What specific incident brought you into recovery? What did you hope to gain at the time? How have your expectations changed?
Who has expressed concerns about your behavior? Your health? Your children? Give Examples.
How do you know your life is unmanageable?
How have you sought approval for others?
Do you say "yes" when you want to say "no"? What happens to your ability to manage your life when you do this?
Do you take care of others easily, but find it difficult to care foself?
How do I feel when life is going smoothly? Do I continually anticipate problems? Do I feel more alive in themidst of a crisis?
How well do you take care of yourself?
How do you feel when you are alone?
What is the difference between pity and love?
Are you attracted to addicts and other people who seem to need you to fix them? How have you tried to fix them?
How were you changed during a time when you felt failure and pain?
What area of your life do you have a need to control?
Describe yourself and describe what it looks like to let go of that image.
What makes change difficult to you?
Have you been trying to exert power or influence where you may, in reality, have none? Have you been trying to control someone or something, trying harder and harder with less beneficial results?
Who or what in your life is making you feel crazy and causing you stress? Whom do you feel victimized by? Who do you feel is now controlling you, your emotions, or some other area in your life? What situations, feelings, or realities have you been running from, denying, or avoiding?
What would you have to face in your own life if you stopped trying to control someone or something? What might happen if you stopped allowing someone or something to control you?
What are some areas in your life that may reflect unmanageability? What is your current condition in these areas: emotions, finances, spirituality, physical health, career? What are you doing for fun, pleasure, and enjoyment?
What is the current state of your relationship with your family, friends, co-workers? Do you have any relationships, or are you feeling alone and isolated?
Does your mind feel clear and consistent? Who are you holding responsible for you emotions, finances, and health? Who are you holding responsible for the state of your relationships?
What are you doing in your life that you feel resentful about? What do you feel you have to do but don't want to do? In what areas of your life do you feel you have no choices, no options? Who or what is trapping you?
Whom do you most want to say something to? Why do you feel you can't say it?
What is the issue that has been plaguing you most recently? Who or what are you most worried about?
When was the last time you did something for loving and nurturing for yourself?
Is there someone in your life who you feel is causing you misery? Do you feel that if he or she behaved differently, you would be happy?