Step 3 Questions

How do you feel about turning your life over to a Higher Power for guidance?

How do you know who or what your Higher Power is?

Are you willing to try to turn your problems over? What could help you be more willing?

How can you stop thinking, trying, and considering; and actually make a decision?

Have you had a problem making decisions in your life? Give examples.

If you are unable to make this decision, what holds you back?

Do you trust your Higher Power to care for you?

How might step 3 help you keep your hands off situations created by others?

What consequences have you had by obsessing on problems and other people?

When you "Let Go and Let God" take care of your life, are you willing to follow the guidance you receive?

How can you turn a situation over and let go of the results?

How can you stop yourself from taking your will back?

What can you do when your loved ones make a decision you don't like?

How can you let your loved ones find their own paths as you are finding yours?

What can you do to try to see others as God sees them?

How can you express God's will in your actions and words towards others, including the other addicts?

How do you exercise your will?

How do you react when you don't get your way?

How defensive do you feel when someone suggests alternatives you may not have thought of yourself?

How important is it for you to be right?

How has your stubbornness been self-defeating in the past?

Do you dig your heels in and hold on to your position no matter what?

How do you let others know what you want to do or what you want from them?

How comfortable is it for you to have your counselor or sponsor tell you what to do?

How often do you say to yourself in meetings or group sessions, "Yeah right! You don't know what the hell you are talking about, you sure don't know me well enough to tell me how to run my life!"?

Have you ever struggled with the belief that you have many of the answers people are looking for—if only they would listen to you?

How do you feel when people don't heed your advice or trust the "your way" might be better?

Do you compulsively control all the little things, such as how and when the car is washed, where the pictures get hung, exactly how many items are arranged in the desk drawer, who sits where at the restaurant, who drives and by what route?

How comfortable are you letting someone else be in control? Are you always one step ahead of most others?

Are you willing to listen to someone else's point of view before sharing your own?

If someone else makes a mistake, do you have to correct it?

How realistic is your image of yourself?

What's your opinion of how you look and behave?

How do you see your abilities and talents?

How is your job performance?

When did you last ask anyone for feedback about how people see you or what they think you need to change?

In what ways do you overestimate yourself?

In what ways do you underestimate yourself?

How willing are you to let others help you form a realistic picture of your strengths and limits?

Is it difficult for you to ask for help?

Would you rather drive aimlessly around to find your destination on your own rather than stop to ask someone for directions?

Do you automatically do the opposite of what you are asked to do by your parents, boss, or spouse?

Are you convinced you have the right answers for yourself in most situations?

Are you equally convinced that others may be well-intentioned but could not possibly have the insight into your behavior that you do?

Do you complain about others' behavior or circumstances but never confront the situation or take any action for the charge?

If you knew that all was well and on schedule in your life today, how would you feel? If you knew that things were being managed by a Power greater than yourself in a way that would work out in your best interests, how would you act differently?

If you knew that you had no power to control events, outcomes, or a particular person, how would you behave differently? What would you say or do? What would you stop saying or doing? What would you do differently for yourself in order to enjoy your own life now, to live in the present moment?

If you weren't allowing someone else to control you, what would you be doing differently? What would you do today with your life? How would you feel?

If you weren't allowing a particular circumstance to control you, or if you weren't trying to control that circumstance-if you just let it be and accepted it as okay for the present moment-how would you feel? If you weren't fighting with or resisting this circumstance, what would you be doing? How would you be feeling?

What is the most loving, most nurturing thing available to you right now that you can use to take care of yourself and enjoy life? What will you do with it?

Given that surrender often feels like dying, yet is the necessary path to liberation, what kind of death in your life would bring you liberation?

Have you ever experienced turning your life over to God? What happened?

From your relationships, cite examples of the two ways of loving; i.e., seeking the spiritual good of others and the seeking of superiority?

Have you ever known unconditional love?  Give examples.

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