Step 8 Questions

How have you hurt yourself by practicing your addiction?

What important relationships did you destroy or damage because of your addictive behaviors?

What are the relationships, past or present, that bother you the most?

Are there other relationships we would like to redo?

How much time and energy have you lost from your addictive behaviors? What do you think you would have done or become had it not been for your addictive behaviors?

Make a list of all those that you have possibly harmed by your addictive behaviors. List the effect on them as individuals and on your relationship.

Take the list of people that you have harmed and make a list of possible amends for each one of them.

From the list of possible amends, choose the ones that seem most appropriate, and mark them according to level of difficulty.

What consequences do you fear in making amends? What is the worst thing that can happen? What is the best thing that can happen? What is likely to happen?

Do you feel angry or resentful towards any people on your amends list? If so, write them a letter of anger, but don't send it to them. Describe here any other ways that you have used to get rid of the anger and resentment towards anyone on your list.

What other barriers to healing are still within in you?

How did you feel the last time someone asked for your forgiveness to salve their own guilt?

How did you feel the last time you offered an apology out of real concern and love for the other?

Who is the one person you find most difficult to forgive? What can you do to want to ask for forgiveness and receive it?

Describe any dreams that relate to making amends to others.

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